Proverbs 5:15 Drink waters out of thine own cistern, And running waters out of thine own well. 16 Should thy springs be dispersed abroad, And streams of water in the streets? 17 Let them be for thyself alone, And not for strangers with thee. 18 Let thy fountain be blessed; And rejoice in the wife of thy youth. 19 [As] a loving hind and a pleasant doe, Let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; And be thou ravished always with her love. 20 For why shouldest thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, And embrace the bosom of a foreigner? 21 For the ways of man are before the eyes of Jehovah; And he maketh level all his paths. 22 His own iniquities shall take the wicked, And he shall be holden with the cords of his sin. 23 He shall die for lack of instruction; And in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

Matthew 10:34 Do not think that I came to bring peace on earth. I did not come to bring peace but a sword. 35 For I have come to 'set a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law'; 36 and 'a man's enemies will be those of his own household. 37 He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me. 38 And he who does not take his cross and follow after Me is not worthy of Me.

Bible  Fact I: There is no marriage vow (swearing) in the entire bible.

• At the Beginning
• Man and Woman
• His, My, To Woman
• Knew, go In Unto Her
• First Marriage Feast In the bible, Use to Deceive
• Shechem and Dinah love story
• Damsel (young woman)

Bible Fact II: Fornication never in the bible defined premarital sex (oxymoron), between two who were free to marry. If the two had mutual consenting sexual intercourse (even unknowingly to others) was found out, Moses law commanding them “he may not put her away all his days".

Bible Fact III: Fornication is a broader terminology in the bible, defining sexual immorality, such as adultery, prostitution, incest, homosexuality and bestiality. Never in the bible attributed to the behavior in Fact 2.

• Adultery
  
• Concubines
• Covenant
• Joseph and Mary
• Samaritan woman
• Jesus Attends a Marriage
• Jesus Warning to Adulterers

Bible Fact IV: Jesus marriage proclamation (reaffirms Adam's words at the beginning and Moses Law), the two shall become one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse) marriage occurs. So that they are no more two, but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

• Jesus’ Commandment Swear not at all
• The Word that I Spoken the Same Shall Judge Him in the Last Day
• Wise Man, Which Built His House Upon a Rock
• Above All Things, Swear Not, Nor by Any Other Oath

Bible Fact V: Jesus never recognize a vow (swearing) is the moment marriage occurs.

• Jesus Times

Bible Fact VI: Jesus addresses when a husband puts away his wife not for fornication, causes her to commit adultery in marring another, due to the dire plight a wife on her own was not able to feed, cloth and shelter herself in Jesus’ times. Whoever marries her commits adultery.

• Jesus Addresses the Dire Plight of Woman

Bible Fact VII: Jesus addresses further when a husband puts away his wife not for fornication, causes (due to her dire plight in Jesus’ times) her to commit adultery,  this by itself alone her husband (same flesh) indirectly commits adultery and also affirms if a husband marries another, directly commits adultery. Disciples gather from Jesus statements if a husband puts away for fornication (which Jesus allows), its expedient (profitable) for him not to marry (another), due to the action, marries another commits adultery. Jesus affirms the expediency (profitability) not to marry (another), be a spiritual eunuch for the sake of the kingdom of heaven or reconciliation.

• Let Not Man Separate, Causes Forbidden
• Indirectly Commit Adultery
• Why Matt 19:9 Often Misinterpreted
• Disciple's Reply
• All Men Cannot Receive This Saying Spiritual Eunuchs
• Permanence of marriage
• Decision
• Paul's Warning to Adulterers

Bible fact VIII: Paul writes considerations and rules concerning marriage: Now concerning the things where of ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2: Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4: The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5: Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

• Concerning Woman
• Cannot Force An Unbeliever Marriage Partner to be Saved
• Paul Writes About Virgins
• He Sinneth Not: Let Them Marry
• Paul Writes about Widows
• Early Biblical History and Jesus Teachings
• Elders Blameless, Without Reproach, Man of one Woman

Summary Early church age to present day: I Timothy 4: 1 But the Spirit saith expressly, that in later times some shall fall away from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of demons, through the hypocrisy of men that speak lies, branded in their own conscience as with a hot iron; forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by them that believe and know the truth. For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it be received with thanksgiving: for it is sanctified through the word of God and prayer. If thou put the brethren in mind of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Christ Jesus, nourished in the words of the faith (God's persuasion), and of the good doctrine which thou hast followed until now:

• Seducing Spirits will Arise and Doctrines of Demons
• Let us do Evil that Good May Come
• Vows Used to Destroy Marriages
• Today Society Is Not As Highly Morally Structured, Killing Babies
• Religious Leaders Adulterous Generation
• Society In Denial of their Lifetime Marriages
• Before a Supposed Marriage
• Return to One's True Lifetime Marriage
• Christians Commanded Obey Government
• Mutual Consent Public Profession
• Today Locally Exist in Society
• If I Put Away for Fornication Can I Marry (another)?
• Marriages from virginity to the grave
  

Genesis 2 :24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and cleave to his woman ; and they shall become one flesh.

• There is no bible reference describing a vow during a marriage or states is the moment marriage occurs.
• The law of Moses for thousands of years, we will find didn't separate two when joined together in the flesh (unknowingly to others), instead he commands them to remain together.
• Man's conjured up doctrine, precept, tradition, works, who created a combination oath, vow, during a ceremony, makes void the word of God.

    Some assumed when it says husband or wife in certain places of the bible they were married, before they become one flesh. Actually there is only the words man or woman wherever the words husband or wife is seen in the bible. The words man or woman was used sometimes with the sense, usage of having marriage status or other usage. However there was no word used in biblical times such as husband or wife, specifying marriage status within these words alone. Husband or wife, are words that were created many centuries after the bible was written.
    The translators of the bible in their aim to make the bible easier to read perhaps some unconsciously, some not unconsciously built on earlier translators zeal to promote a man's conjured up moment when marriage occurs. They have applied the non biblical terminology husband or wife, in passages where there is no clear evidence marriage status was applied. Attempting to discredit marriage occurs at one flesh (sexual intercourse) let not man separate, cited by Jesus. In so doing, many people cannot get pass this non biblical terminology husband or wife, and insist wrongly because these words husband or wife are seen in their bible presuming showing marriage status, they must be married.

    Due to this circumstance, I have taken the liberty afforded by the actual meaning of the words, to replace the words “husband" and "wife” in various scriptures, with the words “man" and "woman”, where there is no evidence of actual marriage status shown in the context. To allow as originally written, if shown in context marriage status is applied, then and only then is it to be presumed.

    The case of Eve was created of the flesh of Adam, called her man (same flesh, Adam), for she was created from his flesh in an extraordinary way. It has been suggested Adam and Eve had marriage status in God's eyes before one flesh (sexual intercourse), perhaps but there is not enough detail, evidence present to establish, however this one of the kind, unique situation is never cited by Moses or especially Jesus, to teach marriage status occurs before one flesh (sexual intercourse). There is an abundance of evidence by Moses law and Jesus saying one flesh (sexual intercourse) cited as the moment, let not man separate. Jesus words are the golden rule established for all.
    Woman are created from man's flesh, God declares, therefore how a woman is created from man, a man shall cleave (longing, adhere, keep company, clinging, embracing, passion) unto his woman, and they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse), let not man separate, cited by Jesus.
    There are other purposes where it's written his, my, woman (not the word wife) or her man (not the word husband), not showing marriage status as yet, or to woman, having marriage status in God's eyes, but having to perform the formality of that age.

His , my woman, the case of a betroth woman:

• Dowry paid, agreed to become in the future one flesh (sexual intercourse), not marriage status as yet, even though a betrothed woman was expected strongly to follow through.
• Dowry paid, one flesh (sexual intercourse) has occurred, has marriage status

To woman:

• In the case when one flesh (sexual intercourse) occurred first, applied let not man separate, marriage status applied in God's eyes, was since at the beginning, and later prescribed in Moses Law, the formality of dowry surely be paid and he may not put her away all his days and even later reaffirmed let not man separate, by Jesus teachings.

    Early in the Old Testament the words "knew" and "go in unto her", was the only description recorded in the bible showing they married or going to be married.

Genesis 4:1 And the man knew Eve his woman; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man with [the help of] Jehovah.

Genesis 4:16 And Cain went out from the presence of Jehovah, and dwelt in the land of Nod, on the east of Eden. 17 And Cain knew his woman; and she conceived, and bare Enoch: and he builded a city, and called the name of the city, after the name of his son, Enoch.

Genesis 24:67 And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his woman. And he loved her. And Isaac was comforted after his mother's death.

    First recorded marriage feast in the bible for the joining of one flesh (sexual intercourse), notice the marriage feast was used to deceive Jacob into marring someone he didn't want to marry. Jacob said, give me my woman that I may go in unto her. Jacob does not say give me my woman that I may say a vow, oath, involve swearing to one another. Jacob recognizes to be one flesh (sexual intercourse) is instituted of God the moment he is married to Rachel.

Genesis 29:21 And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my woman for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her.

Genesis 29:22 And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. 23 And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her. 24 And Laban gave unto his daughter Leah Zilpah his maid for an handmaid. 25 And it came to pass, that in the morning, behold, it was Leah: and he said to Laban, What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel? wherefore then hast thou beguiled me? 26 And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn. 27 Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years. 28 And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to woman also. 29 And Laban gave to Rachel his daughter Bilhah his handmaid to be her maid. 30 And he went in also unto Rachel, and he loved also Rachel more than Leah, and served with him yet seven other years.

The case of Shechem (Genesis 34), a very sad love story, relation to the later prescribed Moses' Law Deuteronomy 22:28 in Fact 3.

• hold = Strongs concordance 8610 = a primitive root; to manipulate, i.e. seize; chiefly to capture, wield, specifically, to overlay; figuratively, to use unwarrantably:--catch, handle, (lay, take) hold (on, over), stop, X surely, surprise, take.
• Control by the hands, in a skillful manor (as to entice to have sexual intercourse)
  

• Took = Strongs concordance 3947 a primitive root; to take (in the widest variety of applications):--accept, bring, buy, carry away, drawn, fetch, get, infold, X many, mingle, place, receive(-ing), reserve, seize, send for, take (away, -ing, up), use, win.
• Defiled = Strong’s Concordance 6031 a primitive root; through the idea of looking down or browbeating;

    Other bible versions use the word humbled, Moses when used the word in Deuteronomy 22:28 didn't show negativity to the extent of force, evil, sin or a punishment of death.

• Defiled = Strong's concordance 3930 a primitive root; to be foul, especially ceremonial.
• A different word then used earlier and continued to be used till the end of the written account.

    Consider Dinah's brother's anger they say "lying with Jacob's daughter", notice no mention of forced was used. I mention this because there are some who will try to claim this was a situation of force, rape. Her brother's never state, specifying forced had occurred (Strong's concordance 2388 a primitive root; to fasten upon; hence, to seize, be strong) as used in Deuteronomy 22:25, showing a situation of force, rape and its punishment was death. Instead we see anger over ceremonial circumcision, later Jacob troubled for his son's over the top reaction:

• Answered deceitfully
• Murdered circumcised men
• Stole all they own
• Enslaved all their wives and children, to eventually perhaps marry

    Notice Simon and Levi, their reason for deceit, murder, thief and enslavement of wives and children to eventually perhaps marry, was "should he deal our sister as with an Harlot", again no mention of force.

Notice the detailed description written of the prince's character:

• His soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob
• He loved the damsel
• Spake kindly unto the damsel.
• Longeth for your daughter
• And the young man deferred not to do the thing, because he had delight in Jacob's daughter
• He was more honorable than all the house of his father.

Jacob said to Simeon and Levi, well done faithful servants of the Lord, you have done the Lord's work? Not even close.

Jacob said, Ye have troubled me to make me to stink.

Stink Strong's concordance 887 a primitive root; to smell bad; figuratively, to be offensive morally:--(make to) be abhorred (had in abomination, loathsome, odious), (cause a, make to) stink(-ing savour), X utterly.

Whose the real harlots?

Simeon and Levi spoke deceitfully and murdered at the edge of the sword, stole their sheep, and their oxen, and their asses, and that which was in the city, and that which was in the field. And all their wealth, and all their little ones, and their wives took they captive, and spoiled even all that was in the house.

    Later, Simeon, Levi, and other older brothers in anger plotted to murder their younger brother Joseph because he had a dream that his older brothers, the moon and stars will bow down to him. Then the older brothers were persuaded by the brother Judah and a passing slave caravan, to sell Joseph into slavery for profit (twenty shekels of silver). Eventually the dream comes true, Joseph becomes second in charge over all of Egypt, all of Jacob's household joins Joseph is Egypt.

   

As the years went by, the Pharaohs forget about Joseph, and treat his descendants:

• Answered deceitfully
• Murdered circumcised men, including edict to kill the sons when born
• Stole all they own
• 430 years, became eventually enslaved

    It's Ironic that Moses seen as a prince among Egyptians, a descendent of Levi, is the man chosen to set free the Hebrews from enslavement to Egypt. Moses writes laws that if followed by his forefather Levi, would of perhaps kept them from being enslaved to Egyptians.

• Why didn't Moses called this fornication, sin, evil?
• Does Moses say anything to disqualify the joining of the flesh (when unknowing to others), as if God isn't involved?
• How do you  reconcile Moses law that was taught for thousands of years, in Jesus' day and many years after Jesus, with what is being taught today?   

     So according to law of Moses, every time two became one flesh (one night stand) with mutual consent (as long as they were free to marry), when found out, they were forced to remain together. That means thousands of marriages were formed this way for thousands of years, in Jesus' days and many years after Jesus.

    Moses never called it fornication, or infer it was evil, a sin when found out, a man and un betroth virgin woman became one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse), unknowingly to others. Instead Moses wrote a Law: Exodus 22 16 “he shall surely endow her to be his woman“, and Deuteronomy 22:28 “he may not put her away all his days“.

Exodus 22:16 And if a man entice a maid that is not betrothed, and lie with her, he shall surely endow her to be his woman . 17 If her father utterly refuse to give her unto him, he shall pay money according to the dowry of virgins.

• Entice = Strong's concordance a primitive root; to open, i.e. be (causatively, make) roomy; usually figuratively (in a mental or moral sense) to be (causatively, make) simple or (in a sinister way) delude:--allure, deceive, enlarge, entice, flatter, persuade, silly (one).

    Surely (had to) endow her to be his woman, the formality didn't make her his woman in God's eyes. Rather the formality was an expectation, you can say tradition, custom that men learn to expect. Moses in keeping order in the society, made it certain the expectations, even some customs would be fulfilled, within the confines of the principles, spiritual laws, the particular law since the beginning, when one flesh occurred (mutual consented sexual intercourse) the couple was looked upon as joined of God, married. Jesus when setting up his kingdom, does not state at dowry (money paid) or any other moment, but at the moment of one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse), let not man separate.
    Moses making sure the dowry will be paid, the custom, so there will not be civil unrest. If civil unrest breaks out, Moses would lose the trust of the people. Because of this Moses made a law that insured the payment of money would surely be paid, so not to lose the people over grumbling, over lost money. Remember their were harden hearts in Israel who would use any chance they have to remove Moses from power. Because Moses done this, some only see what they want to see, such as the case of the revised standard version adding the word  “make" her to be his wife,  causing some seeing additional emphasis to infer wrongly marriage began at the payment of money. The society in Moses day, recognized marriage at joining of the flesh, would of seen Moses trying to keep peace in a situation that may be to some a great disappointment, hard to accept. They wouldn't of seen Moses saying marriage begins at a payment of money or at least the more enlighten, knowing God's ways wouldn't. The ones who were not more enlightened, the harden hearts of Israel would of seen at least the custom of dowry, money was paid, so as to offset the great disappointment, keeping them from causing civil unrest.

• Hold =Strongs concordance 8610 = a primitive root; to manipulate, i.e. seize; chiefly to capture, wield, specifically, to overlay; figuratively, to use unwarrantably:--catch, handle, (lay, take) hold (on, over), stop, X surely, surprise, take.
• Control by the hands, in a skillful manor, as to entice to have sexual intercourse.

    Moses in bringing order to the custom of endowing, clarified, so the formalities would be followed orderly. Amended Exodus 22:16-17 by writing Deuteronomy 22:28, he change the words from entice to hold:

• Hold, manipulate, control by the hands in a skillful manor, as to entice to have sexual intercourse.
• Change the price, no longer can the man who laid with the young woman unknowingly to others, when found out, offer a substandard amount. He must pay the full amount at the start. Where before the father of the daughter can refuse the low substandard offer. If refused he had to pay full amount, and she was his woman.
• Moses further strengthens the expectations, he cannot put her away the rest of his days.

    While Jesus was walking and preaching, this was the mind set, spirit, mental disposition of Jesus and the people. Jesus validates this mind set, commands the primary part of this law, which is “they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse)? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)".
    When a man laid with a woman unknowingly to others, is found out, one will make a grave error not realizing the woman in many cases had a baby nine months later. Today many of these babies are murdered, due to the consequences of the free love generation, in abortion 47,000,000 deaths and counting, or if she had the baby, was she to become a working single mom 3,300 years ago? They made them remain together especially for the babies that would be born in such circumstances to be care for by two parents. This should be the law of the land for young woman today, besides what Jesus said, let not man separate. Who are you mere man that will separate?
    The NIV, New International Version of the Bible published in 1978, in the verse Deuteronomy 22:28 has change the word from "hold" to "rape". They have applied an over the top translation, which is not in keeping to almost every other translation, which didn't assigned the word rape. The word in question hold = Strong's concordance a primitive root; to manipulate, control by the hands, in a skillful manor. As to entice to have sexual intercourse, is not used where there is a description of rape in the bible.
    It was the case of mutual consent sexual intercourse, not by force, but the way of man's hands holds, in a skillful manor, as to entice, embraces, caresses a young woman, until she consents shows passion in return, to the extent she permits, allows sexual intercourse to occur.

• NIV answered deceitfully as Simeon and Levi, to the young couples, brought together by God, joined in one flesh, unknowing to others?
• NIV killed their babies by abortion, because they put many of these young woman in dire situation, through their over the top translation?
• NIV stole everything from these young couples?
• NIV enslaved them in marrying another, adultery, sin, due to their over the top translation persuasion?

• Fornication = Strong’s Concordance 4202 harlotry (including adultery and incest); figuratively, idolatry:--fornication.

    The word fornication is as a similar word we use today perverted, anything sexually outside the teachings of the ancient nation of Israel. Fornication is a broad way of saying prostitution, adultery, incest, (suggest also homosexuality and bestiality) in one word, it was never in the bible attributed to the behavior in Fact 2.
    Fornication never was attributed to when particularly a male (taken into account God allowed polygamy in the early stages of biblical history, but no more) and virgin female, became one flesh (sexual intercourse) unknowing to others, was found out. If fornication was attributed, would wipe away the marriages by simple joining of the flesh without any ceremony at the beginning of creation, Moses commanded by law when two became one flesh unknowing to others, was found out, were forced to remain together and Jesus states "one flesh, let not man separate". When two became one flesh (sexual intercourse) unknowing to others, was found out, the man was to surely, fulfill formality, endow her to be his woman.

• The modern day definition of the word fornication you find in the dictionary, is not the defined usage of the word, as used in biblical times.

    Moses law shows the expectation of following through with a betroth (engagement). Moses condemns the man and the woman who violates the betrothed (engagement) in an insensitive way, especially in a small community. The violation of expectations would cause great turmoil among the people, to the extent that may cause great hatred, vengeance, civil unrest among the families and small community involved. To remedy this Moses condemned the violators of the civil unrest to death.


    Moses law reflected the expectations of following through with the arrangements of betrothment (engagement), if not at least in a civil way to end the betrothment, as to not cause great turmoil and civil unrest among the small community. We do not stone people, Moses law is not in effect and especially due to Jesus’ spiritual laws we are now under for 2,000 years, which affirms the spiritual law at the beginning, came before and supersedes Moses law. She would then be married to the man she laid with, even if she was already engaged to another.

    Example, Joseph is recognized as a righteous man, not willing to make Mary a public example, was minded to put her away privily.

The situation of rape, there is no mutual consent, means it is not a marriage.

    Some today would point to Solomon 11:3 he had 700 wives and 300 concubines. Thinking wrongly a concubine is not a wife. Concubines were woman who became wives, who were once slaves from conquered adversaries, foreign people. It was a way of having mercy upon the enemies of Israel, instead of killing them meaninglessly, they were made servants, enslaved, some they married.

Deuteronomy 21:10 When thou goest forth to war against thine enemies, and the LORD thy God hath delivered them into thine hands, and thou hast taken them captive, 11 And seest among the captives a beautiful woman, and hast a desire unto her, that thou wouldest have her to thy wife; 12 Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house, and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails; 13 And she shall put the raiment of her captivity from off her, and shall remain in thine house, and bewail her father and her mother a full month: and after that thou shalt go in unto her, and be her husband, and she shall be thy wife.

Judges 19:1 In those days, when there was no king in Israel, a Levite living in a remote part of the hill country of Ephraim acquired a woman from Bethlehem in Judah as his concubine. 2 But she was unfaithful to him and left him for her father's house in Bethlehem in Judah. She was there for a period of four months. 3 Then her husband got up and went after her to speak kindly to her and bring her back. His servant and a couple of donkeys were with him. So she brought him to her father's house, and when the girl's father saw him, he gladly welcomed him. 4 His father-in-law, the girl's father, detained him, and he stayed with him for three days. They ate, drank, and spent the nights there. 5 On the fourth day, they got up early in the morning and prepared to go, but the girl's father said to his son-in-law, "Have something to eat to keep up your strength and then you can go."

Covenant

    The verses concerning the covenant between Israel and God in the Old Testament, is an actual covenant. Was also at times along side used a metaphor of marriage, to show some similarities, comparison of God's relationship toward Israel liken as his woman. Some have used this metaphor to teach, equate, there is an actual covenant in a marriage. Not so, an actual marriage is bound not by being in a covenant, oath or vow, but by simply the proclamation of God at the beginning. When God created male and female, once joined in the flesh they are bound for a lifetime, reaffirmed by Jesus.
    Never is there cited in the bible in an actual marriage in the bible, an actual covenant is made by vowing, or oath. Using the name of God, a promise to each other till death due us part. When a man using the name of God to bind himself to another individual (a woman) becomes more liken to oath taking, then vow taking. There is no evidence, example, command, or law in the bible, of either form vowing or an oath, applied in a marriage celebration, marriage ceremony.

    In the case of Joseph and Mary, where it should only be written man and woman, the translators adding the word "husband and wife" non biblical terminology, words created many years after the bible was written, which led to false conclusions there was marriage status in God's eyes. Where instead it is only recorded Mary was betrothed, not married status as yet, but agreed to be one flesh (sexual intercourse) to Joseph.
    Many have tried to use this unique circumstance as their foundation, pointing out the words husband and wife (non biblical terminology, words created many years after the bible was written) to teach a doctrine marriage status was not at one flesh (sexual intercourse). Resulting in today when unknowingly two became one flesh (sexual intercourse), when found out, are separated whom God has joined together, making void the word of Jesus.

Matthew 1:18-25 18 Now the birth of Jesus Christ was on this wise: When his mother Mary had been betrothed to Joseph, before they came together she was found with child of the Holy Spirit. 19 And Joseph her man (correct biblical terminology, agreed to future joining of the flesh, will be married). being a righteous man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily. 20 But when he thought on these things, behold, an angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying, Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take unto thee Mary thy woman (correct biblical terminology, agreed to future joining of the flesh, will be married) : for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. 24 And Joseph arose from his sleep, and did as the angel of the Lord commanded him, and took unto him his woman (correct biblical terminology, agreed to future joining of the flesh, will be married) ; 25 and knew her not till she had brought forth a son: and he called his name JESUS.

Luke 2: 4 And Joseph also went up from Galilee, out of the city of Nazareth, into Judaea, to the city of David, which is called Bethlehem, because he was of the house and family of David; 5 to enrol himself with Mary who was betrothed to him, being great with child.

John 2:1: And the third day there was a marriage in Cana of Galilee; and the mother of Jesus was there: 2: And both Jesus was called, and his disciples, to the marriage.

    The biblical example of a marriage ceremony, Jesus attended, no mention of a vow, oath or swearing, neither anywhere else in the bible. We have in the early part of the bible an example of a marriage lasted some days, and there was the moment recorded they became one flesh, within close distance to the father of the bride. They didn't have honeymoon destinations, airplanes to fly them to some exotic paradise, for sightseeing, adventure, or see the world as we call it today. They were very primitive, simple people, grateful for simple pleasures. They celebrated the two having mutual consented sexual intercourse as beautiful, one of the greatest gifts of God. These people were not embarrassed knowing the two were alone during the wedding feast were becoming one flesh in a room, the house or tent in view distance. When they came out of the tent or house, the crowd could truly celebrate, God had join two to be one flesh. Giving thanks to God.

    In the case of the Samaria woman (noted: Jews have no dealings with Samaritans) at the well, she had five husbands (actual word men, not revealing they had marriage status with her). When using the correct words men and man, it can be perceived and accepted that Jesus is pointed out she had not marriage status in God's eyes with any of these men. She said has no man, Jesus said she answered truly. The explanation best of my understanding, is she committed adultery with already married men, to other woman. Where any joining of the flesh with these type already married men, is adultery. Is not a marriage in God's word.

John 4:15 The woman saith unto him, Sir, give me this water, that I thirst not, neither come hither to draw. 16 Jesus saith unto her, Go, call thy man, and come hither. 17 The woman answered and said, I have no man. Jesus said unto her, Thou hast well said, I have no man: 18 For thou hast had five men; and he whom thou now hast is not thy man: in that saidst thou truly. 19 The woman saith unto him, Sir, I perceive that thou art a prophet.

Matthew 5:27-30 27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

Jesus in Matt 19:4-6 cites, 4 And he answered and said, Have ye not read, that he who made [them] from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and said, For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife (actual word is woman, the words wife or husband did not exist in biblical times, words showing marriage status, came years after the bible was written, explained in Bible fact I); and the two shall become one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse)? 6 So that they are no more two, but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Jesus cites, reaffirms the proclamation “at the beginning”, it's God who made them male and female, as his foundation.

1. God made male and female, for this cause, or other words due to how they are made male and female they will naturally leave behind their parents and seek each other out.

2. Secondly God made male and female, for this cause, due to they are made male and female they will then also cleave (become companions).

3. Thirdly God made male and female, for this cause, due to they are made male and female they will become one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse) this was the terminology in biblical days for sex.

Also the terminology “one flesh” was used in another sense by Jesus to show they are seen by God as if one person forever hence forward until death since becoming one flesh or other words sexual intercourse. Which then becomes the foundation, logic of Jesus to establish his golden rule of marriage forever for his kingdom, the church, Jesus commanded “Not let man separate”

Once joined (one flesh, same flesh since sexual intercourse) forbidden to be separated by man. Even when become one flesh unknowingly to others, when found out were forced to remain together for the rest of their days, prescribed my Moses Law still in effect when Jesus taught and reaffirms this principle and law for the kingdom of heaven, the church.

Jesus words on marriage are the primary law established for all time hence forth. It's the spiritual (logic) law for his spiritual kingdom on earth, the church, anyone who claims to be a part of his church, must abide by his spiritual (logic) laws. Notice Jesus does not mention vows or covenant, which by the way is never mention directly or indirectly once in the bible concerning an actual marriage.

A primary teaching of Jesus, when can we swear?

What is your speech to be, and whatsoevermore is?

Matt 5:37 But let your speech be, Yes, yes; No, no: and whatsoever is more than these is of the evil.

Answer = Jesus said to say Yes, yes; No, no: and whatsoevermore is evil.

An example of a wedding ceremony:

Which best describes the ceremony above, a vow or oath?

    Jesus did not exclude marriage, to allow swearing in a ceremony. Again there is never mention once a vow, oath, swearing made during, at a marriage ceremony, celebration, feast in the bible. This alone speaks volumes where swearing in marriages originate from man.

Jesus states, quotes “one flesh, let not man separate". Jesus does not state, quote at the moment of a vow, swearing, let not man separate.

Matt 19:4-6, "made them at the beginning made them male and female" “they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse)? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)". KJV

Why didn't Jesus state, quote at the moment of a vow, oath (swearing) let not man separate?

Answer = Since the beginning of creation for thousands of years, in Jesus' times and many years after, the man and woman didn't vow, make an oath, swear during marriage feast. During the marriage feast, the two were brought together, alone they become one flesh (sexual intercourse) the moment they were regarded as married, by the people celebrating the event.

What happens to the one that rejected Jesus, and receiveth not Jesus’ words?

Answer Jesus said “The word that I spoken the same shall judge him in the last day”.

Who sent Jesus?


Whatsoever Jesus speaks is from whom?

    Apostle Paul writes the wrath of God is revealed against them who possess the truth, in unrighteousness.

Romans 1:18 For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men, who hold (possess, hold fast) the truth in unrighteousness;

    Jesus' very own brother James born of Mary and Joseph, commands above all things, swear not, nor by any other oath:

James 1:1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ.

James 5:12 But above all things, my brethren, swear not, neither by the heaven, nor by the earth, nor by any other oath: but let your yea be yea, and your nay, nay; that ye fall not under judgment.

    Jesus in his references to marriage never cited commitment, vow, oath, covenant, betroth, money, ceremony, certificate, celebration, jumping over a broomstick, priest present, church building, instead Jesus commands:

Matt 19:4-6 "made them at the beginning made them male and female" “they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse)? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse) Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)".

    Jesus establishes, restores, and affirms the universal commandment from at the beginning for all people. That trumps, outranks, fulfills, exceeds all Moses commandments in Moses kingdom and any of man's assumptions, formalities. Any of man's conjured up invention or decree of a religious body or civil government, cannot invalidate Jesus' commandment.

    We look at Moses commandments as examples, where many of his laws give support, foundation to the commandments of Jesus. Moses laws are not in effect. The spiritual laws of Jesus are in effect which fulfills, exceeds Moses laws corresponds at the beginning of creation. The primary part of Moses law, are by Jesus affirmed.   

    The first five facts, demonstrates the mental disposition of Jesus' times and previous to Jesus. How the people perceive when marrying occurred at one flesh (sexual intercourse) and is looked upon as one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). This started at the beginning of creation when God made them male and female.
    The peculiarities, corruption, due to the hardening of man's hearts of how things evolved concerning marriage from Genesis until Jesus, are removed out of the way. When Jesus restores what was "at the beginning" "one flesh (sexual intercourse)" "God joined together" "let not man separate"     
    All of Jesus and Apostle's teachings on relations between man and woman must be understood with this background.

      In later centuries man leans on his own understanding to conjure up rational, decrees claiming commitment, vow, oath, covenant, betroth, money, ceremony, certificate, celebration, jumping over a broomstick, priest present, church building, is when a marriage occurs or to say what holds man and woman together, he is denying Jesus' word. Making void God's word that says “at the beginning” one flesh (sexual intercourse), "God joined together", "let not man separate", holds a man and woman together for a life time.

Jesus said Matt 5:31-32 “whoever puts away his wife apart from the matter of fornication causes her to commit adultery (due to the dire plight of the vast majority of wives in Jesus' times, if on their own is not able to feed, cloth and shelter themselves) and whoever marries her commits adultery.”

    The background of an age and time, a young woman's virginity was carefully guarded by her parents, but if in a rare case she and a man became one flesh unknowingly to others, was found out, they were forced by the spiritual teaching of God in Genesis, then Law of Moses to have it recognized they were married and cannot separate, this canceled out such things as one night stands. They married at a young age, many beginning in their mid teens (14,15,16), late teens.
    In Matt 5 Jesus addresses the dire plight of vast majority of wives, in the word causes (makes, compels). In an age and time when a wife had very limited standing in society, limited abilities other then motherhood. Dismissed wives on their own had very limited ways of providing for themselves and very limited social protection by the state to care for them if dismissed, such as allowing the famished to eat some of the left over crops in field. If dismissed they would usually be forced, compelled into marrying another for food, clothing and shelter. So because of this Jesus points out to men, husbands who dismiss their wives apart of fornication “causes her to commit adultery” and whoever marries her in this situation, commits adultery.
    Notice Jesus does not release her to marry (another), even she is innocent and likely in dire situation not readily able to provide for her needs.

    The backdrop, Jesus is closer to the gentile's influence, leaving the more highly moral structured society, to a lesser moral structured society. The Pharisees in their craftiness tempted Jesus, seeing what Jesus will say, perhaps being influence by the less moral society.


    Jesus reveals a principle which is at the heart of his teachings, a man and woman when have sexual intercourse are regarded as one flesh, and even further are referred to as one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). Jesus in setting up his kingdom, the church, reaffirms, reestablishes let not man put asunder (separate), the permanence of marriage in the spiritual law as at the beginning in Genesis, the vital principle, law of the spirit (mental disposition) forevermore, which super seeds, transcends Moses law that came later.


    Jesus dissolves Moses command that allowed to put away woman for most causes, which consequently dissolves also the further command of Moses (created solely due to the first command of Moses allowing to put away) if a husband puts away his woman, the husband wasn't allowed to later return to her. If it wasn't for the first command of Moses created, there would be no second command of Moses. The purpose for the second command of Moses was to hold back the many harden hearts of Israel, to keep them from putting away, for if they did put away they were forbidden to return to her.


        Consequently reconciliation (since the two commands of Moses are dissolved) or further explained by Jesus living as a spiritual eunuch towards other woman, are the only two options remains, affirmed in Jesus' Kingdom, the church.
   


Jesus proclaimation in matt 19:9 is the heart of the matter concerning putting away.

    Jesus' intent in Matt 19, concerning the question that was asked him by the Pharisees "is it lawful to dismiss the woman for every cause?" Jesus' proclamation “let not man separate” how? by stating causes forbidden and an action forbidden, indirectly or directly commits adultery:

• Causes Forbidden
  

• Action Forbidden

  

    We must understand Jesus' spirit (mind set, mental disposition). Jesus' mental disposition is a husband and wife both are forever seen as one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse) since defined in Genesis. Placing yourself in Jesus' times, mind set, mental disposition, spirit is key, necessary to discern why a husband can indirectly commit adultery.


    Imagine, if you were a husband lived 2,000 years ago or just 100 years ago, and dismissed your wife not for fornication. She having none or very limited ways of providing for herself. No welfare in their day, with exception of some limited laws to allow the famished to be fed. She marries another, knowing she would have food, clothing and shelter. Jesus is saying you her husband committed adultery, without even the act of committing it yourself directly. For when your wife commits adultery with this unlawful new husband, your woman one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse, as if your right hand), you being her true husband (the arm the hand is attached too) have partake indirectly in her adulterous act. Because you the arm, forced, cause the adultery in your right hand (one flesh, woman).
    Imagine the arm puts the hand into the burning flame, then as if the arm could talk, say to the hand, I’m only a bystander, I’m innocent of you committing the act of burning in the fire.

   Time lapse of 2,000 years, today not as aware a husband and wife being regarded as one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse), today woman's plight if on her own is not as dire as was 2,000 years ago making it more difficult to discern Jesus' mental disposition, combined with especially the mistranslation of the word "not" to the word "except" creates a false opposite inference.
    Notice in the King James version and modern day versions, they use the word "except", a mistranslation which creates a false inference.

King James translation:


    You would find it translated more correctly in the Darby translation and even more in the Greek interlinear translation by Alfred Marshall. The Darby's translation has the word "shall", which is also an addition, the Greek interlinear is the truest translation of the verse.   



    The actual word is “not” taken from a more direct translation of Greek. In error changing the word "not" to "except", makes for a distorted observation, mistakenly inferring that Jesus is stating the situation of two actions if taken, ending in the result committing adultery, people jump to a false opposite inference, afforded by the mistranslated word except if dismisses for fornication and marries another the end result is favorable, not committing adultery.

Correct translation "not"


    Examples of sentence structure Matt 19:9, each situation is unique, having some resemblance to the spirit of Jesus.

You tell your children. Whoever goes to the store not for food and buys candy, will be grounded.
Your an owner of a business. Whoever uses the phones not for customers and phones friends, will be fired.

    In each of these examples not for food or not for customers, are causes not allowed, and buys candy, phones friends are both actions not allowed. The causes are forbidden, remains is to only buy food or only phone customers. If you buy food or phone customers, don’t allow you then to buy candy and phone friends.
    The child when buys food, cannot think because food is bought is then allowed to buy candy, buying candy is forbidden. The employee phones a customer, cannot think because a customer is phoned is then allowed to call a friend to talk about life, primary talking to friends is forbidden.
    Same in Jesus statement the man who puts away his woman for fornication, cannot think because it was for fornication is then allowed to marry another, primary marries another is forbidden.


    Jesus proclamation is speaking only of husbands “dismisses the woman of him not for fornication” due to the dire plight a wife in Jesus' times are causes not allowed, and “marries another” is the action not allowed. The forbidden causes taken by itself, due to the dire plight of a wife in Jesus' times, the husband commits indirectly adultery. The forbidden action marries another taken by itself or combined, commits directly adultery. What remains is an allowance to put away for fornication, purpose is for some relief of the innocent husband and cause turmoil on the guilty woman to repent (remorseful turning away from their sin), the forbidden action marries another, can't be added, is a forbidden action to the husband.
    Note: There is a situation concerning supposedly a marriage, that isn't a marriage after all, in God's eyes (God's command), explained earlier in part one of the discourse and explained further in the discourse. Jesus did not address this straight on, due to it wasn't a major issue in the more highly moral structured society among the Jews, but is a major issue in our times. The issue Jesus address was the dire plight of wives in his times.

 

    The disciple's reply as to the remaining allowed cause, between a husband and wife, says its more expedient (profitable) not to marry. Meaning the husband if he dismisses his wife for the allowable cause for fornication, it's more profitable not to marry another. The disciples knowing the spirit (intent, mental disposition) in which Jesus spoke. Used the single word cause, to reference the only cause left, for fornication and only had to say marry, to reference the forbidden action marries another. Why the disciples perhaps timid, saying things in a condensed way, their afraid because the world around them, coasts of Judaea beyond Jordan, more gentile influence where they would marry another and the Pharisees in their mist, these were harden hearts, that would defy the spiritual law at the beginning, that Jesus restored, reaffirmed. The disciples and Jesus being so close, spoke to one another in a condense use of words at times, knowing each other's thoughts, from previous conversations.

Matt 19:10 The disciples say unto him, If the case of the man is so with his wife, it is not expedient (Strong’s Concordance 4851 profitable) to marry (another). ASV

    Expedient meaning profitable, notice the apostles use the same word Jesus used in the previous verses to Matt 5:31-32, about committing adultery, it is more profitable (Strong’s 4851) to spiritually cut your hand off, or spiritually pluck your eye out then to commit adultery, to be cast into hell. This will tie into Jesus' next statement concerning spiritual eunuchs.

Matthew 5:27 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman (someone's wife) to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. 29 And if thy right eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell. 30 And if thy right hand offend thee, cut it off, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable (Strong’s 4851 expedient) for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.

Receive = 5562 from cwra - chora 5561, to be in (give) space, i.e. (intransitively) to pass, enter, or (transitively) to hold, admit (literally or figuratively):--come, contain, go, have place, (can, be room to) receive.

    Jesus continues to explain how all men cannot receive this saying, but for those husbands for the sake of the Kingdom of heaven (the church), will become as spiritual eunuchs toward their woman who they put away for fornication, these men will not marry (another).

Jesus replies Matt 19:11-12 11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given. 12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake. He that is able to receive it let him receive it.

    Some today will have a very hard time perceiving, because of Jesus and a few of the Apostles didn't marry, combined with especially men later developed an unauthorized priesthood, who swore not to marry. A select group, priest to rule over congregations, had no biblical directive from Christ and his apostles in the new testament, is an apostasy, great abhorrence directly against Jesus command to “swear not at all”. The priesthood of the old testament, was the only literal priesthood (small select group) authorized by God to be formed, came into being, the priest married and the high priest was commanded to marry only a virgin.

Leviticus 21:10-15 10 And he that is the high priest among his brethren, upon whose head the anointing oil is poured, and that is consecrated to put on the garments, shall not let the hair of his head go loose, nor rend his clothes; 11 neither shall he go in to any dead body, nor defile himself for his father, or for his mother; 12 neither shall he go out of the sanctuary, nor profane the sanctuary of his God; for the crown of the anointing oil of his God is upon him: I am Jehovah. 13 And he shall take a wife in her virginity. 14 A widow, or one divorced, or a profane woman, a harlot, these shall he not take: but a virgin of his own people shall he take to wife.

 
    Almost everyone was married in Jesus times. The use of Jesus words concerning spiritual eunuchs, was to show the delicate nature of how the original intent of God's will and spirit was for a man and woman, to be one flesh, same flesh since sexual intercourse, to remain together, or if separated, not to marry (another), the husband become a spiritual eunuch. Not to develop in later years an apostasy, great abhorrence creating an unauthorized priesthood, and then having them think they are to be spiritual eunuchs by of all things swearing. Directly against Jesus’ primary spiritual law to "swear not at all".
  
 Under the new testament parameters, directives of the apostles, all members of the church were referred to as a (spiritual) royal priesthood.

I Peter 2:9 But you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, His own special people, that you may proclaim the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light;

    Jesus is saying when a man puts away, for the allowable cause his woman commits fornication, it is more expedient (Strong’s 4851 profitable) on account of the kingdom of heavens, not to marry (another), HOW? by becoming spiritually as a eunuch on account of the kingdom of heavens, as if having a mental disposition, from Matt 5:27-30 similar to pluck out an eye of adultery in your heart, cast it from thee, to cut off the hand committing adultery in your heart, and cast it from thee, to also think as if your castrated, member of your body removed from your heart, to cast it from thee, incapable of entertaining in your mind, heart, the act becoming one flesh (sexual intercourse) with another woman, then to be tempted to marry (another), committing adultery, to be cast into hell.


    Many have looked at Matt 19:9 having particularly

• The mistranslated word “except” that's in some versions of the bible, such as the KJV.
• Not seeing the connection of the Jesus earlier conversation in Matt 5.
• Today not as aware a husband and wife being regarded as one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse).
• Today woman's plight if on her own is not as dire as was 2,000 years ago.
• Not perceiving the followed up words of the disciples, due to a condense form used.

Have not grasped what Jesus was saying, many have jump to false notions and ran with marrying another.

The book of Mark continues where Matthew leaves off, in Mark is written:

Mark 10:10 And in the house his disciples asked him again of the same matter. 11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against heard. 16 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.

    Jesus says to his disciples, not all the disciples are as close to Jesus, that can understand what he says or perhaps they feared the Pharisees. In the house away from the Pharisees, Jesus says either husband or wife to marry another, commits adultery, further strengthening the mental disposition to his disciples about the forbidden action, is expedient (profitable) not to marry (another).
    There is one cause to dismiss, for fornication is allowed for husbands, which allows some relief of the innocent husband. Also puts hardship on the guilty woman to be shunned, to cause true repentance but the innocent husband cannot add the marry another cause. The innocent husband must remain unmarried or if the innocent party pleases, reconcile, upon repentance of the guilty woman.
    Jesus never once, nor any example or writer in the New Testament, directly, forthright says one can marry another, if the other commits adultery. Jesus says because of the hardness of men's hearts, Moses allowed the harden heart men of Israel to put away their wives whom many of these woman had to remarry to survive, but this Jesus points out was not at the beginning. Jesus reaffirms this principle; "made them at the beginning made them male and female" “they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse)? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse). Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)".

Matt 19:9 But I say to you that whosoever dismisses the woman of him not of fornication and marries another, commits adultery (Greek interlinear by Alfred Marshall)

• Jesus in Matt 19:9 says to husbands who dismiss their wives, secondary causes not for fornication, due to the vast majority of wives dire plight, if on their own are not able to feed, cloth and shelter themselves in Jesus' time, these husbands commit indirectly adultery in forcing his one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse) woman into adultery, without the husband marries another attached to it. The primary cause marries another, commits directly adultery.

• Due to different times, many wives dire plight is mostly removed from society today, a wife on her own can feed, shelter and clothed herself without having to marry another. A husband, strongly discourage, would be safe to say can put away not limited to fornication, 2,000 years later their are cases of woman being violent, in drug addiction, etc. but when he puts away in either cases for fornication or not for fornication, he is still forbidden to attach the primary cause marry another to it. He must remain unmarried or reconcile, same for the woman.

    Jesus had allowed a husband to put away his woman, if she commits fornication, defined as commits adultery, commits prostitution, commits insist, or commits homosexuality. However the husband isn't allowed to marry another, the primary cause marries another can't be added, is forbidden.

    Many in error have discern Matt 19:9 Jesus is describing a situation, KJV translators changed the word "not" to "except", base on this mistranslation that the opposite, an inference only to support a theology of remarriage, where no place in the New Testament says directly, forthright you can marry another. Will you base your life on an inference which there is a clear mistranslation in the verse, knowing no where in the new testament it ever says directly, forthright remarriage is allowed?

Or

    One will discern Matt 19:9 that Jesus is pointing out causes, because it was ask him for every cause? Causes forbidden, not of fornication (due to the dire plight woman in biblical times would make them commit adultery), many there in, too numerous to imagine and the action marries another, as forbidden, husbands commit adultery indirectly or directly.

Corinthians 6:9-11 9 Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind, 10 Nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Hebrews 13: 4 Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers (fornicators) and adulterers God will judge.

    Paul writes God calls us to peace, not in bondage (enslaved) to the mental disposition of unpeaceful means, trying to create a commotion in three situations:

• Towards an unbeliever marriage partner
• Towards the uncircumcised
• Towards actual slavery

Bondage = Strong's concordance 1402 to enslave (literally or figuratively):--bring into (be under) bondage

    The believer is commanded not to be in bondage (enslaved) to unpeaceful means, creating a commotion by leaving the unbeliever or not letting the unbeliever depart, as to force, compel the unbeliever to be saved.

I Corinthians 7:12-17 12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord:

• If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
• And the woman which hath an husband that believeth not, and if he be pleased to dwell with her, let her not leave him. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
• But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases : for God has called us to peace. 16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife? 17 But as God hath distributed to every man, as the Lord hath called every one, so let him walk. And so ordain I in all churches.

    Paul is saying when it comes to the salvation of your unbelieving marriage partner, you are to be at peace. Paul is not saying these two are then unbound (as if free from a yoke of marriage), free to marry another, if the unbeliever leaves. Paul is only saying, to the believer, peace is what we are called to. Paul uses the particular word bondage (slavery, a word never used to describe concerning marriage) rather Paul is describing the state of mind, slavery in the mind, to the mental disposition of unpeaceful means in such:

• to force, compel the unbeliever, he or she to be saved.
• to force, compel the uncircumcised to be circumcised
• to force, compel the master to set free an actual slave

Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

I Corinthians 7:18: Is any man called being circumcised? let him not become uncircumcised. Is any called in uncircumcision? let him not be circumcised. 19: Circumcision is nothing, and uncircumcision is nothing, but the keeping of the commandments of God. 20: Let every man abide in the same calling wherein he was called. 21: Art thou called being a servant? care not for it: but if thou mayest be made free, use it rather. 22: For he that is called in the Lord, being a servant, is the Lord's freeman: likewise also he that is called, being free, is Christ's servant. 23: Ye are bought with a price; be not ye the servants of men. 24: Brethren, let every man, wherein he is called, therein abide with God.

    I have recently reevaluated Corinthians 7: 25 -27, and came to a slightly different conclusion but similar results, that makes more sense, with the available words that been used by Paul. 

1. Paul says it is good a man to be a virgin, because of their times, the present distress.
2. However, Paul instructs the husbands bound (to a yoke) to a woman, not to think they should be loosen, because Paul just said it is good a man to be a virgin (having no yoke) because of present distress.
3. The man, who is loosen from a woman, Paul provides no reasoning how this man is loosen. The only available allowance is due to death of his woman, would loosen him. Or possibly as I stated in earlier writings of mine, it may be stated men who are loosen, not yoked to a woman ever, perhaps he is a virgin or not a virgin, but this seems to less and less the case, from my further studies.
   

    Paul goes on to say, but and if (no.1 virgin or no.3 man loosen, such as by death of his woman) marries, has not sinned, and the virgin marries, she has not sinned.

I Corinthians 7:25: Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord: yet I give my judgment, as one that hath obtained mercy of the Lord to be faithful. 26: I suppose therefore that this is good for the present distress, I say, that it is good for a man so to be. 27: Art thou bound unto a wife? seek not to be loosed. Art thou loosed from a wife? seek not a wife. 28: But and if thou marry, thou hast not sinned; and if a virgin marry, she hath not sinned. Nevertheless such shall have trouble in the flesh: but I spare you. 29: But this I say, brethren, the time is short: it remaineth, that both they that have wives be as though they had none; 30: And they that weep, as though they wept not; and they that rejoice, as though they rejoiced not; and they that buy, as though they possessed not; 31: And they that use this world, as not abusing it: for the fashion of this world passeth away. 32: But I would have you without carefulness. He that is unmarried careth for the things that belong to the Lord, how he may please the Lord: 33: But he that is married careth for the things that are of the world, how he may please his wife. 34: There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

    The next verses, looking at some nine translations, is for the first time I notice in the bible having variations. Due mainly to older manuscripts, the oldest manuscript the Alexandrian in 4th century, compared to later manuscripts Byzantine Majority from 9th century. I will be using the older manuscripts translation. I suspect the later manuscripts of the Byzantine Majority, in their infancy were altered in the surrounding verses, combined perhaps the translators of some  versions of the bible using these later manuscripts had further interpreted some of their society's values in the text.

1. A man is overcome with passion for his virgin woman, to the extent, he thinks he's acting in a dishonorable way towards her, she is past the bloom of her youth, he has not sinned, let them marry. Paul, I sense is aware of the passion in a man for his virgin woman, when she has pass the bloom of her youth, the man wants to cleave, touch, embrace, kiss, before he looses more of her bloom through time.
2. Another man has made it up in his mind to stand steadfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, to keep his own virginity, does well.

I Corinthians 7:35: And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. 36: But if any man think that he behaveth himself uncomely toward his virgin, if she pass the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sinneth not: let them marry.

I Corinthians 7:37: Nevertheless he that standeth stedfast in his heart, having no necessity, but hath power over his own will, and hath so decreed in his heart that he will keep his virgin, doeth well.

    From looking at the various translations, and greek resources, notice some wide apart variations. I am not certain this is the proper translation, but at best a consideration. I'm using my greek interlinear by Alfred Marshall as also a resource.

I Corinthians 7:38: So the both (man and woman in the first situation above) marrying, himself a virgin does well, and the man not marrying, does better.

    Consider this is the ending of the discourse of Paul which he started to speak specifically about virgin men, due to the distress of persecution upon the early church,  it would  be the finale exhortation to point directly in words to the man particularly a virgin, if marries has not sinned, does well, and if he don't marry does better.

I Corinthians 739 A wife has been bound for so long a time as lives the husband of her; but if sleeps (dies) the husband, free she is to whom she wishes to be married only in the lord.

    The key to understanding the selection of elders, is awareness of the early biblical history and Jesus teachings:

• In the beginning of creation, Men and woman were married simply by joining of the flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse).
• Later developed celebrations, referred to as marriages, without vowing, swearing, or a certificate, but simply the joining of the flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse) during the celebration, they were regarded as married of God.
• Moses Law, reaffirmed when unknowingly to others, a man and woman became one flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse) when found out, they were forced to remain together, the man must not leave this woman for all his days .
• Jesus reaffirms at the moment of one flesh (mutual consent sexual intercourse, they are married) let not man separate. Then Jesus teaches marring another is forbidden. The man is allowed to separate in the case his woman commits fornication, but the man is still not allowed to marry (another). He must become a spiritual eunuch for the sake of the kingdom of heaven or reconcile.

    These mental dispositions, the moment marriage occurs and permanence of marriage were in the minds of people before, during and especially after Jesus arrival. For Jesus reaffirmed them through his teachings.

    Notice the guidelines for selecting elders and deacons, the heading of both discourses of Paul, is to be “blameless, without reproach”. So they will not bring blame, reproach upon the church. The very first stipulation concerning being blameless, without reproach, being most elderly were married if not all in the congregations in Paul's day, is “the man of one woman”. 

Reminder: The words man or woman was used sometimes with the sense, usage of having marriage status or other usage, not particularly marriage status. However there was no word used in biblical times such as husband or wife, specifying marriage status within these words alone. Husband or wife, are words that were created many centuries after the bible was written. I have taken the liberty afforded, to replace the words “husband and wife” with the actual translation of the words “man and woman”

Elders

• Titus 1:6 If any be blameless, the man of one woman, having faithful children not accused of riot or unruly. (King James Version)
• Titus 1:6 if any man is blameless, the man of one woman, having children that believe, who are not accused of riot or unruly. (American Standard Version)
• Titus 1:6 if any one be free from all charge against him, man of one woman, having believing children not accused of excess or unruly. (Darby's English Translation)

•  Timothy 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the man of one woman, vigilant, sober, of good behavior, given to hospitality, apt to teach; (King James Version)
•  Timothy 3:2 The bishop therefore must be without reproach, the man of one woman, temperate, sober-minded, orderly, given to hospitality, apt to teach; (American Standard Version)
•  Timothy 3:2 The overseer then must be irreproachable, man of one woman, sober, discreet, decorous, hospitable, apt to teach; (Darby's English Translation)

Deacons

•  Timothy 3:10 And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being [found] blameless. 3:12 Let the deacons be the men of one woman, ruling their children and their own houses well. (King James version)
•  Timothy 3:10 And let these also first be proved; then let them serve as deacons, if they be blameless. 3:12 Let deacons be men of one woman, ruling their children and their own houses well. (American Standard Version)
•  Timothy 3:10 And let these be first proved, then let them minister, being without charge against them. 3:12 Let the ministers be men of one woman, conducting their children and their own houses well: (Darby's English Translation)

    The background of this era, was most if not all elderly men were married in the congregations, was even a exhortation to marry from Paul, in his letter everyone should have his own wife.

1 Corinthians 7:1 Now concerning the things about which you wrote, it is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 But because of immoralities, each man is to have his own wife, and each woman is to have her own husband.

    However Paul also wrote if a virgin man or female don't marry, due mainly to the distress that is upon them (the persecution of the church in Paul's day), they are also bless to be able to give all his attention to pleasing God. Where if he was married he would also have to be concern with pleasing his woman.
    Paul in writing the standards in selecting elders and deacons was continuing the mental disposition when a marriage occurs and permanence of marriage from the beginning of Creation, inscribed in Moses law and restored, affirmed in Jesus’ teachings. Paul in the words “man of one woman” was describing in words to the effect, the culmination of a doctrine of marriage when marriage occurs and permanence of marriage.
    The stipulation “man of one woman” was not only for elders and deacons but for the whole church all members unmarried and married, were to show greatest respect having the mental disposition dwelling in them, while even unmarried, “man of one woman”.
    Paul, I sense his spirit, mental disposition was not exclude the very few if any unmarried and without children elderly men from the position of eldership or deaconship. Instead he was directing guidelines, based upon the circumstance in his day, most if not all elderly were married men, had children.

A few thoughts to consider:

• Some teach an elder and deacon must be married men. I have been to churches who believe this, and seen many single men serve the lord's supper. When deaconship was instituted in the bible 2,000 years ago, it was for the purpose of serving tables. Is the lords table not much greater then the table of merely food for the stomach? 
• Notice Paul describes the elders having children, does this mean only married men that have children are to be selected to be elders? Or is Paul once again only giving guidelines in selecting elders because of the circumstances, mostly if not all have children, who also are mostly, if not all are married? Not excluded very few if any elderly not having children and not married.
• Then lets look at Paul's ministry, who being not married, in his letters wrote the most concerning marriage, it’s rules, laws on the relations between men and woman. Wouldn’t of God had perhaps a married man write on these issues instead? At least to not get anyone confused, allowing them to perhaps think single men could be overseers and deacons of the church?
• Last of all no where in the bible is there ever a stipulation of men having to be married to be spiritual leaders of any group. The old testament no where was it a stipulation men have to be married to be priest, high priest, or even elders over Israel. Instead we find a stipulation to be priest and high priest, that they can only marry a virgin.

    I sense the intent, spirit, mental disposition, when marriage occurs and permanence of marriage, was the real focus of Paul's writings in the words “man of one woman” whom most if not all were married, in the selection of elders and deacons.
    I have had the mental disposition “man of one woman” dwelling in me for now 28 years, since I was 12 years old, though I am not married. Is this the real intent, spirit (mental disposition) of Paul's words “man of one woman” in the elderly men selected for elders and deacons?
    Widows, described as the “woman of one man”. The words “having been “ are added by the translators, however the direct translation only describes her state “woman of one man“, or in a more direct Greek translation “one man woman”. Even though her man has died she is described as her state “woman of one man”. I have removed the words “having been” because their not original to the text.

• Timothy 5:9 Let not a widow be taken into the number under threescore years old, the woman of one man, (King James version)
• Timothy 5:9 Let none be enrolled as a widow under threescore years old, the woman of one man, (American Standard Version)
• Timothy 5:9 Let a widow be put upon the list, being of not less than sixty years, woman of one man, (Darby's English Translation)

    Every man of the church, a Christian should have the state of mind, spirit (mental disposition) man of one woman, if married or unmarried. Every woman of the church, a Christian should have the state of mind, spirit (mental disposition), woman of one man, if married or unmarried.

    Written by Paul, notice immediately after the topic of selecting elders and deacon, being blameless  “man of one woman”. Paul immediately following wrote, seducing spirits will arise and doctrines of demons, through the hypocrisy of men that speak lies, branded with their own conscience as with hot iron forbidding to marry and abstain from meats. This is a prophecy of the future coming of Catholics in 312 A.D. who forbid elders (overseers, Catholics prefer the word bishops instead of elders, a Latin translation) and priest to marry, when none other then Paul the Apostle wrote elders being blameless, most if not all elderly were married, being a “man of one woman”, were selected to be elders (bishops). Another prophecy of the future coming of Catholics, men will command to abstain from meats. Catholics call it a sin if you eat meat on particular days. These are the some of the most precise prophecies in the bible, from the apostle Paul, concerning men that will fall away from the faith (God's persuasion), describing in conjunction two doctrines of demons that Catholics teach.

I Timothy 4: 1 But the Spirit saith expressly, that in later times some shall fall away from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits and doctrines of demons, 2 through the hypocrisy of men that speak lies, branded in their own conscience as with a hot iron; 3 forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by them that believe and know the truth. 4 For every creature of God is good, and nothing is to be rejected, if it be received with thanksgiving: 5 for it is sanctified through the word of God and prayer. 6 If thou put the brethren in mind of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Christ Jesus, nourished in the words of the faith (God's persuasion), and of the good doctrine which thou hast followed until now:

• forbidding to marry

• commanding to abstain from meats, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by them that believe and know the truth.

    It is very ironic there are Catholics who are the complete opposite, strange how they conclude its only single men can oversee and be spiritual enough to be in position of overseer, priest. History shows why they later kept their scriptural  unauthorized  priest from marrying, partly a reason:

• Love of money, to insure no wife would demand their inheritance, taking money away from the centralize religious hierarchy. The centralized hierarchy for the love of money (Jesus says is the root of all evil), forbid their priest, bishops to marry so the money would be retained by the centralized power, a small group of men and pope. Added to the creation of unbiblical prominence, eventually memorizing buildings, extravagant art, wealth surrounding them as a throne to subjugate and rule the minds of men and woman ignorant of scripture .

Which eventually brought about a drove of people submitting themselves to a mere tradition, conjured up doctrine of man.

• Marriage begins at vows, swearing, to subjugate.

    Contrary the biblical teaching from the beginning of creation, Moses law and Jesus' command, the moment of one flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse marriage begins) let not man separate. The primary teaching of Jesus' command to "swear not at all".

    Many religious people have followed the logic “let us do evil that good may come”, when they go directly against Jesus command "swear not at all", when they apply swearing in their many religious ceremonies or even civil. Jesus says is of evil.

Mat 5:37 But let your speech be, Yes, yes; No, no: and whatsoever is more than these is of the evil.

Apostle Paul writes: Romans 3:8 And not rather, (as we be slanderously reported, and as some affirm that we say,) Let us do evil, that good may come? Whose damnation is just.

    Using the name of God, church, etc., cloaking it as a vow, but matching a description of an oath in the bible, between two individuals in a marriage ceremony was developed centuries after the bible was written. A heresy from both old testament teachings and old Roman pagan religion, had merge together, establish a priest system, a member of this self righteous without biblical authority, small ruling centralized group, had violated Jesus elementary teaching "swear not at all", by swearing never to marry. Beginning in 312 A.D. emperors of the Roman empire exchange one state religion for another state religion, chosen this popular sect, heresy of Christianity at the time and further reformed it to their own taste, to benefit the state. Through pope priest craft proclaimed another moment when marriage occurs, only when a priest is present and having to swear by God, church , etc., referred to a vow, but with the matching description of an oath in the bible. Against Jesus’ commandment to swear not at all and made void Jesus' marriage proclamation.

• In 1403, the Bishop of Magdeburg threatening to excommunicate those who married without clergy in attendance.
• Council of Trent in 1563 officially required that Catholic marriages be presided over by a priest.

    Emperors and most kings having their state religions are gone now, due to the separatist, preservation spirit of the original church left to us by the Apostles. Leaving standards within the NT to elect elders of, by and for only self rule within independent congregations to guide and lead, striving to stay within the boundaries set by Christ and his apostles. America was able by the sacrifice of a few and the growing spirit of the congregational self rule religious natured people, slowly loosen the shackles and bindings of the old world's fear, subjugation to a state religion, emperor, king and pope. Giving liberty, freedom to all of religious conscious.

Mat 5:37 But let your speech be, Yes, yes; No, no: and whatsoever is more than these is of the evil.

    Vows (actually oaths) in effect have destroyed numerous marriages that happen unknowingly to others, when two particularly virgins a male and female, have mutual consented to sexual intercourse. When in Jesus’ day were found out, they by the Law of Moses and Jesus teachings would have been kept together for a lifetime as married of God. Are instead today sent separate ways to marry another. Committing now biblical defined fornication (broad way of saying adultery, prostitution, incest, homosexuality and bestiality) particularly adultery.

    Jesus reaffirms, commands the part of Moses Law pertaining to one flesh (sexual intercourse), one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse) let not man separate, for every generation then forward. When followed would keep these marriages together for a lifetime.

• Woe to man pretending they have the authority of God, to demand under the deception of pretending to vow, instead are using the name of God or in spirit to God, swearing in marriage ceremonies. When especially, none other then Jesus commands them not to, and when the bible from beginning to end, has not one example of a vow or oath concerning marriage, or any marriage ceremony.
• Woe to man when particularly two virgins a male and female, mutual consent become one flesh (sexual intercourse), unknowingly to others, when found out are sent separate ways to marry another. Which becomes biblical defined fornication (broad way of saying adultery, prostitution, incest, homosexuality or bestiality) particularly adultery against their first, to live in adultery.
  

    After 2,000 years, today our society is not as highly morally structured. Since the 1500's to the end of the 1800's compulsory government primary schooling up until the ages of 13, 14 slowly grew, then began from the late 1800's to today, government compulsory secondary schooling during a woman's age of 14, 15, 16, and beyond to 18 years old,  to further acceptance of third level schooling, compelled many woman in careers over mother hood, created a prolong time span to begin marriages in late teens, mid twenties, and even thirties. Where sexual fulfillment, other wise fulfilled by youthful marriages in centuries past, was prolonged, in combination since the 1960's many more woman and men congregated in large institutions of the state, colleges and universities, were taught a state human behavior group's philosophy, instilling an anti christian mental disposition and psychology to substitute the christian morality mental disposition. Both philosophy and psychology had not recognized one flesh, even when unknowing to others is when marriage in God's eye's occurs, encouraged free love, one night stands with no consequences, no obligations, birth control, many into sexual activity to occur unknowingly to others, then to walk away from one another, killing their babies. This mental disposition encourage at the state universities through state philosophy and state psychology human behavior programing, funded by trillions of tax dollars,  went with the millions of students like an invading army of darkness back home,  practicing and teaching the concepts, filtered down into the general population, having the greatest dire effect among young woman and men in their mid teens and younger, when they became one flesh unknowingly to others, killed many more babies, walked away from one another. When in 1973 pressured by the mounting chaos in society, began by state philosophy and state psychology human behavior programing, unconstitutionally funded by trillions of tax dollars, the supreme court gave legal permission for killing babies.
    The one flesh unions, were marriages in God's eyes which had been the case for thousands of years by God's word, Moses law, Jesus' law in his spiritual kingdom forevermore, and not so distant decades before were recognized much more in the heartland of america by christian moral duty, obligation, shot gun weddings. Instead recently many of these youthful marriages in God's eyes, through state philosophy and state psychology human behavior programing, unconstitutionally funded by trillions of tax dollars, were encourage to separate, which brings a great curse upon the land. Many have left their youthful lifetime marriage in God's eyes, repeating to themselves philosophers of old, it's merely sex, nothing, a one night stand, are now taken someone else, surrounded it with man's conjured up signs, such as oaths, swearing (which is forbidden by Jesus), and the formalities of government to recognize it as a marriage among men's eyes, are instead living in adultery in God's eyes. They must repent, leave the false marriage, adultery or else be condemned by God, the woman remain unmarried and the man to live as a spiritual enuch or reconcile, return to the lifetime marriage of their youth.

    Today's generation and generations in the future are being deceived by religious leaders, in thinking when a man and woman particularly being virgins, when become one flesh (sexual intercourse) unknowingly to others, are told to walk away from one another. Instead of surely remaining in their lifetime marriages, surely performing the formalities of the law of the land as in the bible commanded. Many in the churches are telling them that they were not bound, not married, and saying things like their forgiven of their sin. Which a man and woman particularly being virgins, when became one flesh (sexual intercourse), is not a sin, never referred or called a sin by God but instead were forced in the bible to remain together.
    But they believe the lie, its a sin and are persuaded by even religious leaders its a sin. If this don't work, then they tell them that since they became saved, they are a new creation, free from their past. But this is another lie, for because to the saved, never was written salvation dissolved marriages, if this was so, all saved married people upon salvation could marry another.

Mark 7: 6 Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written, This people honoreth me with their lips, But their heart is far from me. 7 But in vain do they worship me, Teaching [as their] doctrines the precepts of men. 8 Ye leave the commandment of God, and hold fast the tradition of men. 13 making void the word of God by your tradition, which ye have delivered: and many such like things ye do.

    Today especially teenagers and in their twenties being virgins, become one flesh (sexual intercourse), unknowingly to others, when found out, are separated. Even so far as calling the one flesh (sexual intercourse), sin, fornication, which never in the bible the word fornication defined this situation. Believing a lie, thinking marrying occurs at the moment of a vow, swearing which Jesus says "is of the EVIL", has permeated society and many in religion. These lifetime marriages are separated, the many babies conceived are then aborted, murdered, 47,000,000 (1/6 the population of the USA) and counting, and then many take another who isn't their life marriage, which becomes the evil (living in adultery)

     For thousands of years, woman married at a young age, many in their mid teens (14,15,16), late teens and recognized one flesh is when marriage occurs. So Jesus didn't have to address straight on, the case if a husband found out his wife had while yet unmarried, while a virgin became one flesh with another virgin man, ect. This wasn't an issue in Jesus times in the more highly moral structured society, instead the issue was the dire plight of wives, Jesus addressed.
    As for the more rare case if a husband found out his wife had while yet unmarried, she while a virgin became one flesh with another virgin man, was more rare in the highly moral structure society, a young woman's virginity was carefully guarded by her parents, but if in a case she and a man became one flesh unknowingly to others, was found out, they were forced by the spiritual teaching of God in Genesis, then the Law of Moses to have it recognized they were married and cannot separate, and Jesus' reaffirmed commanded "one flesh, let not man separate", this would be the course must be followed. The first joining of the flesh, even though it was unknown to others, is the marriage in God's eyes and must be restored. The second man she became one flesh with, thinking he was married to her, was never married to her in God's eyes (God's command), is free to marry, find his own wife. The same command if the roles were reverse, a woman found out her husband had while yet unmarried, became one flesh while a virgin with another virgin woman. The first joining of the flesh, even if unknowing to others, is the marriage in God's eyes (God's command), must be restored.

    Perhaps very little can be done for this generation, Jesus said for an adulterous nation seek after signs, many will not repent, return to their true lifetime marriage partner. A scriptural marriage last a lifetime, this must be understood. One should read this whole book slowly, repeatedly, and ponder on it for some time and pray to God.
    One should consider the disease of AIDS one would need to know their sexual history of their partner, or partners. Similarly a man and woman must put forth an honest effort, must begin with the earliest partner, where information can be trusted of their partner or partners, this will determine if there may of been a marriage according to God's word, when became one flesh (sexual intercourse). If a marriage, then one should surely seek to restore, reconcile that marriage.
    If the earliest partner with another person, there is evidence of there already was a marriage according to God's word, before your encounter becoming one flesh (sexual intercourse), then no marriage could of been formed with this partner.  Each partner in your history must be carefully studied, their sexual history, beginning with the earliest, if along the way one proves to be married to you according to God's word, the earliest one will be the marriage that must be reconciled, any other sexual history afterwards with others would be adultery and one needs to repent.
    If all proved to be married to someone else, before your encounter of one flesh (sexual intercourse) with them, these would be adultery, which is a sin, not a marriage, which needs repentance, forgiveness from God, and is free to marry, to seek one's own husband or wife.
    If your honest, sincere, you will seek to stay within his spiritual laws stated "at the beginning" by Jesus. What ever the situation people find themselves, only sincerity, honesty, love, and careful considering of all the facts, to find the answers. People will never know with certainly, the real past of others, some will with certainly, everyone must discern this for their own selves with all honestly, and act accordingly. When we all stand before God, we will have to give an accounting.

    Where a law of the land makes void a law of Christ, we obey Christ. The law of the land is there for civil order and peace, is commendable, honorable but when the particular law or particular laws violate the order of Christ commanded in his kingdom, the church, then we are to obey Christ.

Since the foundation of the United States of America, allowed people to affirm instead of swearing, oaths.

Example: Franklin Pierce, became the 14th president of the United States, Friday, March 4, 1853, had “affirm” rather then “swear” the executive oath of office

    Christians are commanded to obey formalities of government concerning marriage. However when found out first occurs a virgin man and virgin woman became one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse) without the fulfilling the formalities of the law, we must recognize them as bound for a lifetime, married according to Jesus cites the universal spiritual law at the beginning, which outranks, overrides any law made by civil or religious body. As Christians we encourage, persuade, demand this already married couple according to God's word to also obey civil government. To have them obey the formalities of the civil government.

Romans 13:1-6 1 Let every soul be subject unto the higher powers. For there is no power but of God: the powers that be are ordained of God. 2 Whosoever therefore resisteth the power, resisteth the ordinance of God: and they that resist shall receive to themselves damnation. 3 For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to the evil. Wilt thou then not be afraid of the power? do that which is good, and thou shalt have praise of the same: 4 For he is the minister of God to thee for good. But if thou do that which is evil, be afraid; for he beareth not the sword in vain: for he is the minister of God, a revenger to execute wrath upon him that doeth evil. 5 Wherefore ye must needs be subject, not only for wrath, but also for conscience sake. 6 For for this cause pay ye tribute also: for they are God's ministers, attending continually upon this very thing.

Titus :1 Put them in mind to be in subjection to rulers, to authorities, to be obedient, to be ready unto every good work, 2 to speak evil of no man, not to be contentious, to be gentle, showing all meekness toward all men.

    Possible stumbling blocks, Apostle Paul kept the observance of a vow. With the available evidence or lack of any other mention of vows, the best analysis is he taken the vow before he found Christ. Paul still saw himself obligated to its yearly ritual he vowed to God to act out. Paul didn't order Christians to make vows or oaths, to swear so as not to make void Jesus words, “swear not at all”. Jesus says swearing, is of the evil.

    One other circumstance Paul's way of converting he would try to look the part of his audience, so as not to alienate them to the point they immediately dismissed him. When he visited Jerusalem, many Jews had turn to Christ, but among them followed zealously the old law rituals. Even so far as making vows. So not to alienate these men, Paul tried to look the part of still following the old law rituals. By at least acting out the purifying ritual with four who had taken a vow. So he could at least be given an audience and reason with them, that they are free from the old law rituals and now under a new perfect law of liberty. When he entered the temple, some Jews (not turned to Christ) attacked him, seek to kill him. It was stopped by a roman guard alerted to the riot.

    A mutual consent public profession, during a feast, often referred to as a marriage, combined with words of love and commitment, (without using the name God, church, etc.), is not a biblically defined oath or vow, is biblically allowable. Which many marriage feast, celebrations have only a mutual consent public profession combined with words of love and commitment, without swearing, even so their not married in God's eyes, until they become one flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse).
    When includes swearing to each other by God, church, etc., to bind his or her soul with a bond, becomes a biblically defined oath, forbidden by Jesus' words, Jesus says is of the evil. There is no need for this additional bond, oath, because once joined in the flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse), they are forever bound by God's word established since the beginning of creation and reaffirmed by Jesus' word "let not man separate".
     What has happen is through the centuries man leaning on his own understanding devised the additional bond, oath taken in a marriage ceremony, made void the Holy Spirit (undefiled mental disposition of God) recognizing, the joining of the flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse) is itself the bond, bound by God's word that is to be upheld. Even when occurred one flesh (mutual consented sexual intercourse) unknowingly to men.
    Either formality of proceedings without swearing, with swearing, or without a public profession, with a public profession, marriage occurs only in God's eyes when “they twain shall be one flesh (mutual consenting sexual intercourse)” let not man separate.

    Jesus when speaking in Matt 5:32 and Matt 19:9 is speaking locally, on the ground that existed in society at the time, which was the dire plight of the vast majority of woman, due to they had limited rights, protection and limited skills then motherhood to providing for themselves, food, clothing, and shelter. When put away from their husbands, a vast majority were made to commit adultery, in remarrying, for food, shelter and clothing. Jesus said further these husbands commits adultery indirectly themselves, in forcing his one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse), his woman in adultery.
    Today locally, on the ground, exists in society (except in some third world countries and some other circumstances) much different in many regards then Jesus' day. A vast majority of woman today if were put away, have many opportunities to feed, shelter and cloth themselves, not having to commit adultery, by remarrying. So today men wouldn't necessarily cause their woman to commit adultery as in the days of Jesus, if simply a woman is put away for any cause, she can remain unmarried, working to feed, shelter and cloth herself, not made to commit adultery.
    So what remains, if the man separates from his woman? He must also remain unmarried or reconcile same as for woman who separates from her man. The church should let not separate, but if either one separates they must remain unmarried or reconcile. While separate, temptation can easily come about, causing one to commit adultery, if not repented (turn from the sin) to be cast into hell.

    If I put away for fornication can I marry (another)? Many look at the world around them and conclude yes, because they think if they were in such a situation, the likelihood of their partner repenting today, returning, reconciling, is very slim at best. Due to this they assume God must allow people to remarry in such a circumstance, thinking God must be understanding of the situation. I find this reasoning even among real Christians thinking this, and many so name only Christians. This way of reasoning is based on rational of today's times, age, a short segment of time, allowing the society to dictate above that which is of God to hold accountable.
    Notice the dire situation Jesus cited of a woman put away not for fornication, she can't feed, shelter and clothed herself. Jesus commands whoever marries her commits adultery. If this dire situation, she is not allowed to marry, how can the dire situation, much less dire, a man if his wife commits adultery, can not only put her away, but also as some think can marry (another)? At least he can feed, shelter, and cloth himself, is he then allowed to marry (another) when his dire situation is much less?

    The older generation who married in the 1950's and before, they are somewhat more immune to condemnation from God. Due to many since a virgin, when became one flesh (sexual intercourse), remained together for a lifetime. When especially there wasn't birth control pills, abortion was unlawful, and when many more young Americans did not congregate in the 1960's in large institutions of the state, colleges and universities, where free love, one night stands with no consequences, no obligations, promoting birth control, they walked away from one another, killing their many babies.
    The 1950's and before when a man and woman being virgins, became one flesh (sexual intercourse), unknowingly to others, would of been more often had a shot gun wedding. To remain together, legalizing them, some due to pregnancy and some due to keeping to the biblical understanding when is a marriage.
    Whereas Moses governs recognizing these as marriages, and enforced them by law, he shall surely endow her to be his woman; he may not put her away all his days. Whereas Jesus restores "made them at the beginning made them male and female" “they twain (two) shall be one flesh (sexual intercourse)? Wherefore they are no more twain (two), but one flesh (same flesh since sexual intercourse) Therefore what God hath joined together, let not man put asunder (separate)"..
    This issue can't be left up solely to government. The people's minds must change toward when the two virgins male and female, became one flesh (sexual intercourse), society from churches, to communities, to parents, to individuals, need to all recognized them as married for a lifetime. Encouraging, demanding the formalities of the law be fulfilled, duties toward his woman are met and he may not put her away all his days.